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Life Relationships around Stuttering

omniscient — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:18:00 +0000

Have you ever felt missed placed in some of your relationships because of your stutter?

By relationships I mean any kind really, personal, friendship etc.

Ive felt missed placed for a long time and Ive always noticed it but never cared to talk about it. I just had a conversation with my friend it was a long 30 minute conversation and I finally expressed how I felt.

You see Ive always been the one with the means wheather it was financially, or transportation wise and friends automatically rely on me when it comes to being the one that takes care of thing really.

But I've always felt like it was to much on my part and not enough on there's so I finally let it out.

I don't know where our friendship will go from here but
to everyone in relationships, near let your self go feeling like people are being used.

Talk about , say why you feel uncomfortable, so things can work out.Don't hold it in to long.

It is nice to find this website

kafai choi — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 00:18:51 +0000

I hope that we,stutterer,can gather and share our feeling and improve stutter together=]

My great weekend

omniscient — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 15:13:37 +0000

Lately my life has been getting back on a normal track and I'm enjoying life as it comes to me,taking actions on moments that might be fun.

This weekend was fun I went to the club,went out of town, and went to Dave and busters.

This week I dont have to much planned yet.I'm going to my stuttering group meet up on wednesday.Friday I might go see Percy jackson.

What's going on

omniscient — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:24:04 +0000

Hey everyone sorry I havent been active and keeping the community going lately.
Ive had some family problems I had to tend to between my mom losing her job and myself having to pay for the bills and take care of everything.

But I have some good news.
First off im getting my own place with a good high school friend of mine.
Its a brand new place ,we move in next month when construction is finished on the building.

Aside from that I'll be back on here harder than ever,Checking on everyone and making this site stay great!

About me

Nguyen Rachel — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 00:15:48 +0000

Hi all,
First of all I have to say that I don't speak English very well, so excuse me for the incomprehensible sentences . Stuttering's always been an enigma for me that I'm trying to find the answers. I've been stuttering since I was born, I think, I stutter more when I speak French than when I speak Vietnamese, weird right ? I've been seeing a therapist, she helped me to have more confidence in myself that is , I think, a big step for me. But I still stutter. Thanks for reading

Stutter Help

Justin — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 01:10:31 +0000

http://www.stutteringhelp.org/Default.aspx?tabid=128

Bi-polar

omniscient — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 02:41:03 +0000

Hey everyone how are you doing , hope all is well?

Well where can I start, my stutter has been down my stuttering has been minimal,and my engaging in conversations has increased.

For a while Ive noticed that I'll go threw weird mood swings, at home im irritable and Ill have know energy, but when I go out and hang im full of energy and happy.
I decided to talk to my doctor about it and she said im bi-polar aint that some sh**. It explains why i act different at home verse out-side the home.
My big sister always said we were all bi-polar because we all are notorious for our tempers, but know one has been diagnosed.
Im glad I took the initiative to get check out so now theres another label you can add to me, Im a bi-polar stutterer and the list goes on.

Theres more of my life you all know about.

25 Things About Myself

Justin — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 23:11:01 +0000

1.) Technology is my friend
2.) It always seems there is a problem, if it ain't one thing, it's another
3.) Friends, I don't have many, but the ones that I do, I will cherish
4.) I don't like to be judged, but how can I not like it, if I judge others?
5.) I have morals, goals, & believe that everything will get better in time
6.) I know I'm shy. I'm trying to help that. It's really hard! I can almost never think of something to say
7.) Sometimes its as if I have too many projects going on at the same time
8.) Music is my life
9.) What you see, isn't what you get
10.) I love reading quotes and poems. I don't know why, but I love them!
11.) Sometimes it's as if I can't do anything correctly
12.) People say, I turned out incredible, but I don't think so
13.) I hate politics, it's as if no one cares about anyone or anything
14.) I have my opinions, but I don't think anyone else cares, so I keep them to myself
15.) I think that our governments wage system is out of line
16.) I take a lot of stuff for granted that I shouldn't
17.) Smoking, drugs, and swearing every sentence, isn't cool
18.) I try to avoid enemies at any costs. It's better if they're friends or mutual
19.) I have a habit of biting my nails
20.) I can't hold a grudge for a long time
21.) Sometimes it's hard to have friend(s) that are better than you. I sometimes feel left out or get jealous.
22.) It takes a lot, to really make me angry
23.) I might be related to Adolf Hitler, though it can't be confirmed, since he had a wide unknown family tree
24.) My favorite holiday is Christmas
25.) I try not to be fake, but I don't know who I am just yet. I'm still trying to figure that out and what makes me different from everyone else. Hopefully, I'll find out soon, but right now, I'm just going through life the best I can.

"Just Like You"

Justin — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 23:06:48 +0000

Yeah…It’s the truth. I’m just like you, except that I’m not. Living day to day, trying to make the escape. Find a vent. Find a friend. Oh, man… How long has it been? Where do I even begin?...Is this how it’s going to end?

What to do? My mind is racing. I’m frustrated. I can’t make it. The clock is ticking and time is passing right on by. I’m chasing, pacing, trying to get the next high… the strength of my mind is starting to decline…If only I could stay on my grind. Let me clarify the moment, pause, fast-forward, rewind…hold it.

My words can’t even bring it to justice, I’m about done and I’m saying fuck it. Wearing the mask, putting on a show, but no, nope nobody knows. I’m a prisoner in my own mind, chained to these walls, everything is fine, but yet, I’m still unsatisfied. I’m just trying to get by. You would’ve never have guessed, that I had so much built up stress.

I can’t take it. I got to regain control, be my own hero. I’m acting stupid, but, acting cool, right now, I might as well have the rope around the neck, on the stool. Yeah, I’m concerned, I over think & I'm not insured. I have nothing else to lose & everything to gain. I’m sick of everything always being the same. I pray, everything will be ok, cause I’m sick of the struggle. I can’t pay the toll. I can’t fit the mold. Life is out of control. The all time lows, watch them explode, spinning in a spiral, breaking off, as they go.
I can’t just sit back & rot & be underneath the rocks. Plain & simple, this has got to stop. It’s not what I seen, this isn’t happening to me, this only happens in dreams and in fairytales & fantasy. These are some rough times… everyday is changing. It just feels like somebody left me out hanging. I just can’t seem to get it together. I don’t know whether, it’s because I’m looking for more, or that I’m tired, or just that I’m bored. I’m thinking, I’m down for the count, I’m not sure if I’m even up for another round. I wish I could just sleep, because I’m just so damn beat & I’ll have no one to bother me. I’m drawing blanks & I have no one to thank. I’m starting to doubt shit. I’m not seeing another way out of it. I’m tired of getting burned & people telling me that there’s a lesson to be learned. What you see, is not what you get & I’m still trying to figure out shit. Now Understand, I’m working on the issues at hand, trying to understand, I’m trying to be all that I can. I’m in my court, my fort, defenses are up, & everything that I can dish out, still doesn’t seem to be enough. The walls are starting to fall…going from having everything to having nothing at all. I wish I just had some time to just sit back, to regain back, the spirit that I had. Even if I could, get half, I’d be glad…cause, I have been trying to remain still for as long as I can remember...January through December.

I’m not backing down. All I need is to place my feet on some solid ground. I’m listening to the heart. I’m trying to stay on guard, maybe then I can carry on. Everything used to be where it belonged & it seemed as if nothing could go wrong. Those times, my mind knows all too well, cause unlike you; I’ve been close to hell. When you’re older, the feeling of being invincible goes way & for your cares, they seem to increase, each & every day. The difference between you & I, you expected it & I caught it by surprise. It’s time you realize, I need to get this out my mind because I just can’t go another day, without telling you, what I have to say. It’s the way I feel. I want to feel brand new & be someone just like you. I guess… it’s a waste of time, trying to help bring me back to the other side. I apologize, for living that life & for all those tears that you cried. I’m finding my way & learning the ropes. I will follow & I’ll learn as I go. I’m coming to terms. I’m sorry that you were concerned, but now it’s over, I learned. It’s been going on for too long. I’m sorry for the misery that I must have caused. Know that you taught me a lot, from the bottom to the top & I thank you, now that it stopped.

Do you have the right mental attitude...??

Manpreet Singh — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:18:09 +0000

Success is in the blood. There are men whom fate can never keep down they march forward in a jaunty manner, and take by divine right the best of everything that the earth affords. But their success is not attained by means of the Samuel Smiles-Connecticut policy. They do not lie in wait, nor scheme, nor fawn, nor seek to adapt their sails to catch the breeze of popular favor. Still, they are ever alert and alive to any good that may come their way, and when it comes they simply appropriate it, and tarrying not, move steadily on.

Good health! Whenever you go out of doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every hand-clasp.
Do not fear being misunderstood; and never waste a moment thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your own mind what you would like to do, and then without violence of direction you will move straight to the goal.

Fear is the rock on which we split, and hate the shoal on which many a barque is stranded. When we become fearful, the judgment is as unreliable as the compass of a ship whose hold is full of iron ore; when we hate, we have unshipped the rudder; and if ever we stop to meditate on what the gossips say, we have allowed a hawser to foul the screw.

Keep your mind on the great and splendid thing you would like to do; and then, as the days go gliding by, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing the opportunities that are required for the fulfillment of your desire, just as the coral insect takes from the running tide the elements that it needs. Picture in your mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the thought that you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual you so admire.

Thought is supreme, and to think is often better than to do.

Preserve a right mental attitude the attitude of courage, frankness and good cheer.

Some Important Techniques...!!!

Manpreet Singh — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:07:18 +0000

Important Techniques :--

Bouncing :- When ever we pws are stuck on a particular word, we always force the 1st sound of that word out of our vocal chords by breathing improperly from our chest or sometimes we even stop our breath and force the first sound of the word to get out of our mouth.This increases the air pressure in our lungs and we start getting out of breathe.So instead of doing all this ,we can stop just before the word which is difficult to speak and bounce(repeat the 1st sound) very comfortably,easily and without any stress. And when we feel that now the rest of the word is also coming out , just stop bouncing and speak that word starting again from the 1st sound.for example:- I always get stuck on the word starting from P. So if I have to say "My name is Pawan". Dont struggle and dont stop breathing in order to speak "Pawan". Just repeat the first sound very softly like My name is P - P - P - P -P-a-a-wan.Now here the repetetion of the word is not like as we always do . Just speak it softly .

Diaphragm breathing :- This is the most important one.Untill n unless you dont allow the air to pass through ur Vocal cords, you cant speak.We use this technique bcoz most of the adults have developed a bad habit of breathing from our chest.I found that all the babies breathe properly from theri Diaphragm or abdomen. So when ever we stammer or get stuck, we always start to breathe from our chest or sometimes we even forget to breathe. So just try to breath from ur diaphragm.

Prolongation :- Prolongation is a technique that is suggested in most of the speech therapies. In this we have to strech the first sound rather than Bouncing on it. Now in case of "Pawan" ,we can say it as Paaaaaaaaaaawan. Actually we have to strech the first sound but when we say "Pawan", there is always the P sound followed by aaaaaaa.

Light contact :- Also we people often get blocked on P sound bcoz our lips are not opening up or seprating out. So there must be a light contact of ur lips when we are dealing with sounds like P,B etc.And if you apply this light contact method then you will observe that After the 1st sound of P there will be the sound of "hhh" rather than "aaaaa" in Pawan.

Easy on set :- In this we have to strech every vowel sound that appears in a word. for eg : Paaaaaaaawaaaaaaaaaan, Iiiiiiiiiiindiiiiiiiiiiaaaaaa.

Cancellation :- This is used if in case we forgot to apply our techniques on a difficult or feared word.And we are stuck on that feared word.In this we have to stop in between our block on this word , take a deep breath and then start again speaking out that word but this time we will use our techniques and speak out that particular word with ease and light contact etc.for eg :- my name is Pa-a-a- . stop here. Take a deep breath. Then start with the technique with which you are comfortable. Like I am comfortable with light contact in case of P . so I wud say Phhhwan. You need not to repeat the complete sentence again. Just repeat the word on which you get stuck .

All these techniques should be practiced in the company of other human beings for best results. In other words SHG is the best place - instead of doing it alone.

Overcoming your fears....!!

Manpreet Singh — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:02:49 +0000

Usually most of the speech therapists only focus on some techniques like Bouncing,Prolongation etc. and that also in clinic environment. They make the stammerers to practice in their own comfort zones.But the real challange is to extend our comfort zone and face the new challanges which were just like a night mare for a stammerer.

So today Dr. Sachin took us to a Hospital today and we were made to come out of our comfort zone and face our night mares. At first ,we were made to talk to some patients or their relatives who were sitting in the waiting room. I was really scared at that moment. we were suppose to talk to them and ask them about their purpose of coming here and to also tell them that we are working on our speech.we talked to 6 to 7 people out of them 4 were ladies. I always hesitated to talk to any lady, so I was very much nervous at that time too. But after talking to them I felt that there is nothing like a night mare or what ever you call it. They were really understanding our problem and were very cooperative also.

The next task was to go and talk to the Supritendent of that hospital. When we went into the office ,I saw that the Supritendent is also a Lady.We talked to her and told her about ourselves and what ever techniques we learnt here. She was very happy and also said that the techniques that you pws are using must be used by every person bcoz it sounds so Cool and stylish. Then the 3rd task was to go to different windows at the hospital and just ask them something using Bouncing technique. And I think this was the best part of the day . We were enjoying bouncing and asking questions . So overall it was a gud experience .

Stuttering Techniques

omniscient — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 01:46:06 +0000

"Everything has a base and stuttering is know exception"

Twenty minutes ago I was thinking about all of the Foundations and organizations that represent stuttering in the best way.
The best ones where Nsastutter.org, friendswhostutter.org, stutteringtreatment.org, stammering.org, and stutteringhelp.org just to name a few.

All of these entities had a beginning base and as time went on
bases where joined by walls and door ways that would lead to a better place.

These entities started with a base and it was up to them to build on that base.

Lets use Nsastutter.org, I don’t know there full story but I can guarantee you they started with a base, and used what ever resources they had.

How can a base be related to a stutter?

I'll tell you how.

First lets break this down into two things:
Base 1- consists of anything related to your stutter
and
Base 2- relates to your daily life

Know matter how long you have stuttered, the beginning point is you stutter.

Since stuttering can be a life affecting thing in your daily life
you can see that stuttering is your base.

Okay my stuttering is a base what does that mean exactly?

It means that your stuttering is only your base and you can choose to build on it.
Building on your stutter may consist of:

Base 1
Therapy
Seeing a Psychiatrist
Practicing techniques
Support groups
Etc...

Base 2
Using what you learned in base 1 to help you with LIFE.

Examples:
If you are feeling down you can use what you learned in support groups to cheer you up
or
If your a manager at a company and your about to do a presentation, you feel
your self tensing up so you can use what you learned in therapy to get
through it.

The options to where a base can come through and work for you are endless
and can be fit to conquer any situation.

Understand that you stutter but it is only the beginning.
Build on your stutter, to become what ever you want.

Thanksgiving is Approching...

stuttersteve — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:02:28 +0000

With a week away, Thanksgiving is coming fast. What is Thanksgiving? Besides going out and eating alot of Turkey... Well to me Thanksgiving is what it means. Being Thankful. As a person who stutters I am Thankful for this site. A site where you can express yourself and be yourself. I am Thankful that I have a beautiful family, which includes my wife of 5 years Michelle, and 3 beautiful children. Gabe 12, Sandy 2 1/2 and John Joseph (JJ) 8 months.

I have came to conclusion with my stuttering that I would like to share with all of you... There are 2 ways to look at your stuttering. The first, to accept it and don't let it control your life. Trust me it can if you let it. When I was younger I used to think that way and everything I did always came to my stuttering.

For an example, High School they have these dances and I really wanted to go. However I didn't because I thought people would treat me differently and make a scene because of my stutter.. I was very self consious in my youth. I missed out having a great time.

I give this example because it probably happened to you so you can relate.

The second way which I don't recommend, is to let your stutter get the better of you. Have you ever wondered why its easier to bad things than good? Because with doing good things you have to put a serious effort and takes time to accomplish,

I am a good example of having my stutter go from bad to good. It takes real effort and hard work but if you work on it and make it a life time goal you can achieve anything you put your mind to it! Just remember that...

Stuttering your way to success

omniscient — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 02:44:31 +0000

Look at society and you see success, but look closer
through the eyes of a person who stutters.
What do you think they see?
A stutterer might see a goal that is unattainable or better yet, they might see
something they cant be.
But think about it,how can you blame them for seeing that, You don't ,They blame you!
They blame you for all the times you made fun of them,laughed, and ridiculed them.

Now take a even closer look
when a person sees something they want that someone else has what do they do? They blame that person at first and get jealous. Haven't you?
Now ask yourself whats the difference between you who failed and the person that succeeded.
The difference is one of us tried harder than the other.

You see know matter how hard you have it, someone else has it that much harder.
We all are different and we all have problems, who can you name that has had a problem free life?

What ever it is that is stopping you can only be a positive If you make it that way, use your disability or problem to your advantage.

It is with honor that i present to you people who stuttered there way to success.
Tiger Woods
Bob Love
Darren Sproles
Bill Walton
James Earl Jones
Bruce Willis
Marilyn Monroe

The list goes on and will continue to grow, it is up to you to decide If you will be a success.